"Your kids are missing out on so much. They will turn out weird."
"You can't be an expert in all things. Don't be so selfish."
Every homeschooling parent hears these sorts of comments almost daily whenever the subject of homeschooling comes up. Unless they live in an isolated hippie-type commune. Which, I admit, has its' appeal…Still, people are herd animals and I doubt that any of these naysayers realize the impact that their disapproval casts on our own self esteem. It is a difficult job, being a parent, and it gets even tougher as this world gets sucked deeper into the influence of evil. Still, the trend of all things being disposable seems to have encroached on the views of parenting as well. There seems to be us homeschooling, hippie, helicopter parents vs the hands-off, they'll-survive, I-turned-out-just-
fine parents. Our first world country mindset is that the parent is no longer responsible for the rearing of our offspring. Children are dropped into "HeadStart" programs or Pre-K at 3 years old to learn to share. To print their name. To sit quietly…All the things that once were the responsibility of the parent. I taught in a daycare in the toddler room and saw the blatant shift of power when parents would tell me: "Okay, you can start potty training him (or her) now." Potty training? When did that become part of the teachers' job? On day one, little minds just eager to soak up some information are still arriving largely blank. They don't know their phone number, their birth year, their last name. Parents just don't teach any more. Perhaps this is why the idea of Homeschool fills so many with trepidation.
GOD gave me these children to raise. I would never, for one minute, presume to think that our fate lies in anyone else's hands. I have been gifted the opportunity to parent and parent I shall. When my children are grown and others remark on how they "turned out," it will be ME they hold up to commend or criticize. I have yet to hear: "He sure turned into a terrible person. Too bad he got such a bad teacher." The bible is full of direction for the Godly parent and it will be the parent who will one day give answer for the raising of their children. You and you alone are accountable on the raising of these ones before God. Circumstances are varied, and often difficult, but when it really matters, you can find a way. So we make do with very little money. I am not an expert on all things, but I am becoming an expert on my children. And selfishness is the last reason I would give to a homeschooling parent who sacrifices their golden hours to their little ones instead of using the public schools as a free babysitting facility. Homeschooling is the trading off of that "Me-Time," the lack of quiet for a good portion of the day, the lessening of the chores that expand in a house filled with youngsters and the humbling realization that to teach you must constantly learn.
Remember that you are building a life-long relationship of love and sacrifice with your children.
Remember that you are embodying Christ-like selflessness in putting their needs ahead of material gains.
Remember that you are protecting and PARENTING in the best way that you know how.
Remember that God entrusts the raising of those children to YOU and you alone.
Remember that there are many out there fighting the same battle as you and we all march under the same banner. Carry on, soldier.
Cheer for yourself, Homeschooling Parent! Cheer for your Brothers and Sisters in this uphill struggle. Write out your motto, your battle cry for the hordes who would discourage you. You don't need their approval! You have your own cheer team right there in the mirror, in the heavens above and seated around the kitchen table. You are more than enough. You are complete with 1, 2, maybe more little extras added on just for fun. Even Olympic athletes only get fifteen minutes of cheering for years of gruelling work. So let me sound the cheering for you: I believe in you! You can do this! Your children deserve this! Your children deserve you!
Let's all remind ourselves who we are doing this all for anyway.
I am going to go do some lesson planning now in this imperfect world.
And I am perfectly happy.